It's bad enough to have to endure a separation from someone you love, but it's almost unbearable when you know that your beloved wife has left you for another man. You lay awake at night wondering why she chose him over you. While getting your wife back in this situation won't be easy, it is possible.
First of all, don't lose hope that there could be a reconciliation between the two of you down the road. If there was no violence in your relationship, and you are still able to have a civil conversation with your wife, the odds of her coming back eventually are quite good.
The most important thing that you need to understand, right now, is that she doesn't want to come back to the current version of you. You two have a history together, and I'm assuming that you know each other pretty well. Therefore, she's seen everything that you have to offer her, and has decided, for the time being, that another man can better fulfill her needs.
So, how can I win my wife back?
Learning how to win back your wife from another man is a process of self-discovery. There is no magic bullet solution that will instantly make her change her mind. Instead, you've got to be willing to take a hard look at yourself and see what things you can change for the better.
At this moment in time, when your wife thinks about you, she is probably focusing more on the negative than the positive. Meaning, she left you because she has formed some opinions about what she doesn't like about certain behaviors you have.
If you truly want to get your wife back from her boyfriend, you need to change the way she perceives you. In other words, you need to flip the script and allow her to see your attractive side. In order to do this, you'll need to brush the dust of rejection off your shoulders and move forward with your life.
Instead of sitting around moping about her being gone, find some things to do that gives your self-esteem a boost. This may be a hobby, an interest in learning something new, or finding a way to give back to your community. You need to re-energize yourself, and be seen as a man who is going places and doing things.
She thinks the guy she's with right now is so great because he's new and fresh. However, you're no slouch, either, and you need her to come to this realization on her own. You won't impress her by leaving her tons of messages, you do it with actions and deeds.
Once she starts seeing you in a new light, things will eventually come back around in your favor. When this happens, you'll be in a much better position to attract her back into a relationship.