It's extremely difficult to find yourself alone after years of being married. You're left with memories and questions, some you fear you may never have the answers to. And then comes the thing you dread most... Your wife asks you for a divorce, a legal separation. And you're wondering what to do. How to find a way to make things work. Here are some proven techniques that can help you get your wife back:
Sit back and think about the problems you and your ex had. Were you in any way responsible for them? Would you say you played a major part in the separation? If needed, ask someone close to you and your ex wife to give their candid opinion. Things they observed when you were together, maybe something your wife might've shared with them. This will give you a different perspective on the situation.
Don't do anything without thinking things through. You don't want to regret saying or doing something, especially not now. Things are fragile and you don't want to push your wife further away. Instead, look within and figure out where all your marriage needs improving upon. What can you do to alleviate some of the tension and troubles? What can your wife do if she's willing to give it another shot? You see, if you don't work on the factors that broke your marriage up, chances are they'll resurface again. If you made certain changes, do you think your wife would be willing to come back or are things beyond repair? Do you feel she still loves you?
While introspecting, it's important to see things from your wife's perspective as well, not just yours. Put yourself in her shoes and go through some arguments you had in the past. See your behavior in your mind's eye as objectively as possible. This time away from each other is an opportunity to heal, grow, make amends and be honest with her and yourself.
Once you've given everything a good thought, call your wife and invite her out to dinner. Be nice and cordial when you meet. Try to make her feel special. Don't dredge up past differences. Express your love for her and remind her of the good times you shared. This should soften her up. Suggest that you'd like to make things work and are willing to do whatever it takes. Notice her response. Does she seem open to the idea? Alternate between serious and light moments. You don't want the evening to get too heavy or serious.
The idea is to remind her of the reasons why she fell in love with you. Be the man you used to be, the man she loved. Rekindle the romance and emotions. Make her fall in love with you again. Hold back any negative comments or contentious issues though. Now's not the time. Keep one thing in mind, nothing works better than sincere, heartfelt emotions. Open your heart to her and keep the communication channel open. That's the most critical thing in a relationship. All the best. Hope to meet you as Mr. and Mrs. some day.